I don’t know how many times I have been asked this question by guys that I have slept with or intend to sleep with?  It’s a question that I have discussed with some of my girlfriends and it’s a tough one!  I have my theories on the matter and it differs from some of my girlfiends’.  Some of them say ‘yes’ because they are really sleeping with a “man,” so that makes them gay.  But, to me, that answer is too simple, and I think that people are too complicated for a simple answer like that!  We are multi-faceted beings and to put people in a box with a label is just too simple.  Human sexuality is so much more complicated and intricate to allow us to sum up the answer to this question in just one sentence!

When guys ask me this question (usually just after they have finished sucking me off or getting plowed by me, lol), I usually tell them ‘no’.  You may ask, “Are you crazy?. . .You just fucked a guy in the ass and you don’t consider him gay?”  Well, let me explain:  We are transsexuals; we tell the world that we are ‘chicks with dicks’–that we are women in every sense of the word except for what we have between our legs.   Ninety-five percent of these men say that they could never see themselves fooling around with a “regular guy” (this is your normal average, regular rugged man type).  These guys say they are attracted to the woman in us; they are attracted to our feminine qualities.  This is one of the reasons I tell them that they are not gay.  Gay men are attracted to the certain qualities only a man possesses:  masculinity, muscles, physique, etc.  Getting back to the question about men who get fucked by trannies:  I would say that there are many men, even the “average” straight man, who enjoy anal stimulation to some degree.  There are many straight men who like a finger, tongue, or dildo in their ass when they are with their women counterparts, but does that make them gay?  Surely, not to me!

In additon to the reasons aforementioned, I usually ask these guys:  “Could you fall in love with a regular man?”  To me, it’s about love!  A man who loves another man is gay.  Anybody can have sex with somebody–but that is just sex!  Sexual acts do not determine one’s sexual orientation!  I have had sex with women, but does that make me straight?  Hell No!!  (I love men too much, lol)  I truly believe that human sexuality is gauged by a scale (let’s say from 1-10; 1 being totally gay and 10 being totally straight) and we all fall somewhere in between those numbers, whether you are a 3 or a 7 is up to you.

All in all, it is truly up to YOU to decide whether you describe yourself as gay or not, if you sleep with transsexuals?  Only you can define who you are!  I just feel that sleeping with someone of the same sex or opposite sex does not define who you are sexually.  We are too complicated of a being to be put in a box and labeled!  So, maybe the answer to give to someone who asks you what you are, or tries to define you, just tell them what I tell people:  “Baby, I’m just a freak!”

Until Next time, ENJOY!!

Tonya

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